Friday, July 3, 2009

Of Being Smart, Single and Happy ...

Dear Dato' ... was touched when you said that you were thinking about me, AT14 and your daughter when you wrote this posting. Oh btw, nanti lah I ajar nak masukkan playlist into your blog as my gratitude. Datin has been telling me about it.

First and foremost Dato' it is a good sign that your daughter had opened up her heart to relationship (s) which means that she accepted love into her life and perhaps is ready to share the rest of her life with "the other half". Some single women whom I knew are not willing to share burden or responsibilty or problems with "a significant other".

Hmm, I am not sure about your daughter, but I believe there are 2 possibilities. Either she hasn't meet the love of her life or she has met but fate has it that it doesn't end as happily ever after. For that Dato' I hope you could ask her to read this entry in my blog. It was beautifully written by an unknown author and it really touch my heart.

Remember ...

"Ia cuma mengambil masa seminit untuk jatuh hati pada seseorang, satu jam untuk menyukai seseorang, satu hari untuk menyintai seseorang tetapi ia mengambil masa sepanjang hidup untuk melupakan seseorang."

In my humble opinion, this "smart women dillema" stems from our modern mums thinking (perhaps upbringing) that women must be brought up to be independent and men must be brought up to be a gentleman (and often end up as mummy's boy). Problem with smart women Dato' is, they usually have a romantic heart, sebab banyak membaca masa kecil all this fairy tale, Mills and Boons or all Alaf 21 Novel. So they tend to think that "rich, handsome,powerful" men are drawn to beautiful women with brain. Reality bites! Ouuch ... We haven't take into account those unreported cases or those who prefer to suffer in silence especially the stigma of being associated with the title "Andartu".

However Dato', I would like a share something I read from a bestselling Christian book "The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren but the message is universal. I believe that being smart is a greatest gift from God and I believe, whoever we are, we are created to serve God's purpose. So selagi I belum jumpa "that fated one" I guess in the days that follows ... I must put bitterness aside but to serve God's purpose.

Contohnya ... how to use my brain and my "smartness" in creating "sustainable development", how to make sure Hafiz menang AF7, how to snap the nicest pics, how to make my friends laugh every single day, how to make my friend jealous I asyik makan sedap ... and Dato' ... yang paling penting ... how to tackle AT14 or getting Guy Next Door attention .... haleluyah!!!

So far I had 2 failed serious relationships ... but guess wat Dato', I never regretted to end both relationships. U see, unconsciously, women tend to choose partners who have similarities to their dads. For me, my dad can be considered as 'almost non-existence" for more than 20 years. Then my mum and late grandma unconsciously raised me to be the "Man of The Family". I made my own decisions, I fix things at home, I taught my brother to play football, help my grandma to fix our reban ayam/itik and raised them ... You know that when my brother Jason was born, my dad was in Penang. At 7 years old, I know how to buy sayur at the market. Anyway, we stayed in Bau, a small town ... so the town folks knew my mum ... so my mum gave me a list and I went to see the aunties and uncles at Pasar Bau.

Fast forward, I realised and learned from it. I now knew wat attributes in a man that I am looking for, seriously. In my case Dato' ... I cepat terpikat dgn physical attributes hehehe .... (and some thing never change hehehe) but since turning 21 last year I mula appreciate potential candidate(s) that show that he cares rather than saying that he cares, that listen and give opinion, that think of you as a friend more than he think of you as a lover .... Even I mula lah bagi peluang "a certain guy" peluang to fix things in my house ... sekali sekala apa salah jadi damsel in distress hehehe.

I am entering an age where the fruit is almost too ripe to be plucked. However selagi jantung ini masih berdegup (oppsss kena check the cholesterol), selagi mata ini masih celik ... isikanlah kehidupan ini dengan memori yang indah, dengan amal dan ibadah, dan cucilah mata dengan yang "indah-indah sahaja" hehehe

19 comments:

emel said...

Hmm...ur writing tis time really caught me, la. certain part, we hav similarity, aku rasa ya kita duak bole get along, kan..same wavelength la ya..

Btw, r u sure last yr u just turn 31? or is it typo error??..iboh manas, ya nama nya aku go thru every single letter words yg kau tulis..

rambomadonna said...

i am "21" hehehe

yes mel ... guess tat's why kita kena penetrate international market oredi hehehe

Jett said...

waduh waduh waduh...bila kok mau ke seberang?

emel said...

betul3X.. u r rite. Bah, cney kita duak nak carik ínternational market'ya...bukan senang, wo..

Unless, kita gi tmp2 yg,u know i know la.. but, we oredi start make a move wat, like go to church, clubbing, etc.. tp, hasil nya mana, si?.. enggak ada gitu.

rambomadonna said...

Apanya sih mau ke seberang? Ngakk fahamin ....

apahal tukar channel tok

rambomadonna said...

Emel: Sik boleh nak penetrate international market nek tok coz ada H1N1 ...

emel said...

Woi, pahal tetiba semua tukar channel tok!?? Sama frequency ka, Jet, Jmie??..

rambomadonna said...

Aduh palis palis ... kena ada nok lari ke Lambuk ikut BF international tok ...

Jett said...

waduh...kok enggak faham sih. seberang itu juga internasional kok.

rambomadonna said...

Jett: aku sik haa... sebab aku sik pernah jadi amah indon.

emel udah pernah ... tapi maunya gaji lumayan, kerja nya cuci gelas di sinki hehehe

emel said...

hahaha... woit, Jmie blog ko tok tmp kita 3 Jet chatting ka? Ya ku malas mun dah berinteraksi dgn ktk duak, alu kluar semua crita gila2...

Gney nak molah??...

Jett said...

mel, mun nak berseriusan, gi la lolong liling luer

Abet said...

Aku sik mok masok campur urusan baginda bertiga... neway, ne Agnes?

Abet said...

on the second thought...

Asalkan jangan jak; Being Smart, Single but Lonely...
Friendship is forever but friends aren't.....

rambomadonna said...

Abet: So far sik sempat nak lonely sebab malar jak ada another smart lady ngabas aku, or aku ngabas smart lady or I am too tired doing anything.

Jett, wish u are within our radar too... mesti banyak boleh dipolah. But of course, bila dah tua, that where the loneliness akan menghantui kita.

BTW Kazen, don't u think marriage also share the same principles opppppppppppssssssssssss

Jett said...

Abet : Agnes, masih d lolong liling luer (the last time i checked, which was a month ago). N no doubt ada rasa lonely juak sikit, but we are still HAPPY!!!
Jamie : Set ka kita pun Cuci the Musical kat IB end of October? kebetulan aku ada conference di KL time ya. jimat duit tiket belon (boleh pakei utk konsert lain, hehhehe).

norzah said...

J, a smart and charming girl can only fall for two types of men: one smarter than her or a very rich and dumb man. She'll complement the first type and inspire the latter on how to spend his money. (This is still a hypothesis, though).

No doubt a smart beauty can be independent and happy. But a smart partner can bring out your potentials to the full.He can make you feel complete and fulfilled that you'll want him with you always.

But remember. You can't get a polished diamond that does not belong to someone. You get a good stone and help polish it into a rare gem. Don't worry about age though. U r as young as you feel.

PS. Pls drop the Dato'. I'm plain Norzah.My daughter might dipinang tak lama lagi.

rambomadonna said...

Jett: Aku very sceptical about Cuci The Musical, but if it is meant to make us lebih "cultured" ... yea wat the heck!


Norzah: Sorry ... u are so humble sir and I am so happy for your daughter. I agree, even stone can be polished into a shining gem. Will take up your advice.

norzah said...

J, aku telah baca habis petikan yg u turunkan mengenai 'matter of the heart'. Inilah respon utk u dan anakku.

No push or pull
it works on its own:
it keeps harping back at the face
that makes the world smile at you,
and silence sounds like music
for you know he's there
like the Muse that makes you aware
of the heartbeat that's rare.
It's the throbbing of the soul
responding to the sweet calls
of love that entralls.

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